Tuesday, 30 September 2025

Emotionally Exhausted

Hello Friends!

After today, I am emotionally exhausted I have cried all day long.  It was never going to be a particularly happy day as it is the 16th anniversary of my father's passing, and due to my now limited mobility, I was unable to go to the cathedral to light a candle for him, which I would normally have done.  I try to focus on the good and happy memories that I have of a lifetime spent with my daddy.

and here we encounter a problem. 
I'm trying to insert photographs and Google won't let me

I did however go to Shalom the local hospice for my day I attend there once a week, but I was not prepared for the news that would greet me when I arrived.

DEVASTATING

It was with a very heavy heart indeed that they told me the Hospice will be closing at the end of October. The nurse who told me was in tears herself. Shalom has been a lifeline for so many families and members of the community over the past 18 years, since it was established.  Daddy went there during the last few weeks of his illness, way back, in 2009, not long after they had opened, and my mother attended there for nearly 3 years. I have been attending there for about 18 months.  It is a caring nurturing and supporting environment for those with life limiting medical conditions. however, the bulk of the running costs have fallen on the shoulders of volunteers and fundraising activities which of course can never hope to achieve the kind of sums of money required to run such a facility.

This is the point where I have to be very careful not to get on my soapbox, but I'm already on it. So here we go. Hospices, and similar facilities should not be left to function on, or rely on community contributions and donations and the work of volunteers. They are such a valuable and vital resource within any community and therefore they should be funded by the government in full.  

So there are about four more visits for me to the hospice and that will be the end of it.  I am quite despondent over it all, having, looked forward to my Tuesdays at Shalom. I have made friends but because we are all poorly, it is highly unlikely we will be able to meet up again.  I can only hope that as we move forward something else might come along, but at the moment there is nothing. It's going to be a long and lonely winter.

I cannot say enough to express my heartfelt gratitude to the staff at Shalom and for all the fundraisers and volunteers, who have kept it going for 18 years.  We will miss you here, and you will be missed across the county. You have been wonderful to so many people, providing respite, care, advice and more.


Here is their announcement, it is a link to a Facebook page but I don't think you have to be on Facebook to be able to read it. I hope you can.

Shalom Hospice


9 comments:

  1. That is such sad news for you that this lifeline of Shalom Hospice is closing soon. As you say the friends you have there will find it hard to meet elsewhere, due to mobility issues. Could you announce you will be at xxxCoffee shop on a certain date and time and others are invited to join you? I have a group that I set up that meets once a month at a coffee shop. Nice to keep in touch.

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  2. As someone who is eyeing up my future (like you I have a progressive illness, but am hopefully a good few years off needing hospice support) I'm in total agreement. I think it is morally bankrupt to start finding money to support 'right to die' without fully funding to support 'right to live'. I hope you find a support group somewhere, and possibly on-line; zoom is proving to be a wonderful way for me to keep up in touch with church, church home group, a group of friends living everywhere from Scotland to Suffolk, Book Club, and with my cousins.

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  3. I am so sorry to hear the sad and devastating news about Shalom Hospital closing soon. You were right to get on your soapbox and I agree such places should be government funded. Thinking of you Debbie.

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  4. I'm so sorry to hear this. It's just so wrong that there is no funding for Hospices. I'm hoping that you will find a way to meet up somewhere in future.

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  5. Oh Debbie ... I am so very sorry to read this.
    So many Hospices are struggling to continue to stay open.
    They do such wonderful work and I do the best I can to support them.

    Thinking of you.

    All the best Jan

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  6. I so agree with you about the Hospice situation -- here, too, I think. I only wish it had been available for both my parents. I'm so very sorry to hear this, Deb. I hope that at home you lit a candle for your dad. The prayers and offering can come in any setting, and even though it wasn't the one you would have hoped, home is warm and loving and the gesture so beautiful and genuine.

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  7. Sending you love and hugs . Agreeing with you about funding for such important organizations. It is the same over here. Hospice is always having fundraisers. It all should be funded by our taxes. They spend our taxes on some very idiotic things, they should fund Hospice and other organizations.

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  8. I'm so very sorry to hear this, Debbie. I can't begin to imagine how distressing this must be for you.
    Sending lots of love. Xx

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  9. It is disgusting that hospices and air ambulanes rely on charity when money is frittered away on so many other unnecessary things. Priorities are all wrong

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